Dealing with Crazy

February 27th 2025

Adulting in today’s world often feels like navigating a minefield of micro-aggressions and thinly veiled impatience, especially when you’re just trying to get a decent meal. Nowhere is this more apparent than when placing an order at a restaurant. Whether it’s a fast-food counter or a sit-down establishment, the potential for a rude encounter seems to lurk around every menu item. You might encounter the eye-roll when you ask for a substitution, the exasperated sigh when you take a moment to decide, or the flat-out dismissive tone when you inquire about ingredients. Suddenly, a simple act of sustenance becomes a test of your emotional resilience.

The key to surviving these encounters lies in a delicate balance of assertive politeness. It’s understanding that while you deserve basic respect, you also can’t control another person’s mood or attitude. Instead of escalating the situation, try a calm, firm approach. A polite “Excuse me, I’m not sure I understand, could you please explain that again?” can often diffuse tension. If the rudeness persists, remember you have the right to ask for a manager. Sometimes, simply acknowledging the behavior (“I’ve noticed you seem a bit frustrated, is everything alright?”) can prompt a moment of self-awareness in the other person.

Ultimately, adulting means choosing your battles. While it’s tempting to unleash your inner Karen, it’s often more effective (and less draining) to let minor slights slide. Focus on what you can control: your own demeanor and your ability to advocate for yourself when necessary. Remember, you’re there to enjoy a meal, not to engage in a power struggle. And if all else fails, take a deep breath, pay your bill, and vow to write a scathing (but polite) review later. Sometimes, that small act of passive-aggressive commentary is the most satisfying form of adulting.